Seek and ye shall find, they say.
And if you look, and look, you will definitely find.
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I've been troubled about who that girl is in NY, the one Roscoe is seeing. Since I found out he's planning on staying with her for awhile, my mind's been going wild.
Today, all that ended.
Woke up at 3 am, coffee and play time with the babies, then off to the gym.
Hit the Casino by 8 am. Lost my ass and returned home.
More coffee. Contemplation. Idea.
"I wonder if his old password on Facebook still works?" Hmm.
Gasp.
Wow. Just wow. What I found in Roscoe's email floored me. Now, he's done some pretty backward shit in his life. But this ranks up there: A TRIPLE betrayal. One best friend. Two semi-suspecting women. One older. One younger. (The older) one is in a relationship with Roscoe. The other wants to be. He's slept with both. Writes lil love messages to each. Vomit.
The younger one also happens to be the **girlfriend** of one of his BEST friends, Andy. Roscoe's been fucking her since May, and I think even when Andy was out running errands. She knows about the older woman. Andy knows nothing. The slut and Andy have been having problems lately...hmmmn...wonder why??
They've split. She is now planning on getting a lil love nest for Roscoe and her cheating heart.
Roscoe's plan: He's going to NY to...drum roll.....break it off with the older woman. Also, he plans to return home, pick up the slut and drive to Detroit to hang out with his alcoholic crony, Dan.
Ummm. Ugh. What a piece of trash.
Resisting the urge for retribution. I think Andy needs to know. But how would one go about it?
Coffee. More contemplation. Cleaning. Then off to AA.
My name is Ruby Baron or RB for short. I'm an addict. I love alcohol, & when in the mood, pot. I'm what they call a functional alcoholic. With my bills paid, no DWIs & a high credit score, I fool a lot of people. I want to be sober more than anything, but I'm not ready yet. My BlogSpot address is misspelled "Rudy." Yeah I was drunk. Go figure.
Hi Ruby,
ReplyDeleteI say let it go. How does this help you? Not at all. What good will come of it? Probably none. You need to focus on you and getting better and staying sober. Hope you made it to AA today.
So, my Dearest Ruby, I will tell you what deep down you already know... First off, Ranci is right up above. This is going nowhere good. Obsessing and becoming an Internet stalker is definitely not what God has in mind for you, and it's not going to bless your life. I understand well how hard it is to sever a connection that you bound by for so long, but darlin' you don't want Roscoe back in your life and you sure as hell don't need him back. So let him go, keep reminding yourself, a hundred times a day if necessary, that he is the past and you are moving on. Then redirect your thoughts and energies elsewhere. Get the rest of his stuff together and get it out of the house! Don't check up on him, don't track his activities, and don't invite him in for coffee. Life cannot open new doors for you if you are unwilling to shut (and lock) the old ones. It is going to take some time to work him out of your system, but the best way to do that is to focus your energies and attentions on your new guy, make new happy memories to replace the ones you had before. And if you can't find yourself getting excited enough to do that, it's time to look further! I know it hurts, Ruby Dearest, so much hurt from your past with Roscoe, and maybe you will never get the apologies you want and deserve, but you can still forgive and move on, and then your life can begin to bloom again. Go to AA, go to the gym, keep job hunting, and keep your eyes looking forward. It's going to be ok, and a couple years down the road he won't matter anymore. But first you have to sweep him out of your heart and out the door. Just do it! You don't need to buy yourself more pain!
ReplyDeleteOXOX, Josie, who loves you very much
Waiting for the post that tells us you've returned to AA and are moving ahead day by day. I know you can do it, I know you will be happier when you do! Hugs and love always, Josie
ReplyDeleteThanx ladies! You're both so right! xoxo
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